Emotional freedom

Picture this situation, you are driving home from work after a great day and your favourite song comes on the radio.

It’s been a fantastic day and your spirits are high, so what do you do? You do what any reasonable person would do in this situation, you start singing. A little bit of head bopping, steering wheel tapping (channelling your inner Keith Moon).

You’re in your own little world loving life. Until you see the guy in the car next to you looking at you.

This is where you could go from feeling great to wishing you were invisible.

You might turn the radio down, sit back into your seat, reset your hands to the 10 and 2 position. Adjust your joyous facial expression, to one that conveys serious mature thoughts.

This example is ascribing too much importance to what other people think.

It’s not that you shouldn’t give any importance to other’s opinions. But where it crosses the line is when you care what absolute strangers think. Or people that are insignificant in your life. People you don’t respect.

These people should have no bearing on your actions or your goals. If it was up to someone else how to achieve our dreams and progress most of us wouldn’t achieve anything in our lives.

You need to base your decisions and goals on you, not other people. Too many people base their success and goals on the opinions of other people. Friends, family, co-workers.

You need to stop worrying about what other people are thinking about you and your decisions.

It is a very dangerous habit to have as it encourages you to move with the masses or conform to the group.

Here is where the emotional freedom technique will help.

Now, this is not designed to make you arrogant. Rather it resolves and dissolves the emotional reaction you have to and about other people, places and things.

To be an independent and self-confident person you need to start being more independent!

When you start to care less about what other people think you start living more. This doesn’t mean you don’t care about people.

The emotional freedom technique resolves and dissolves what you think other people think.

Have you ever thought to yourself?; ‘he or she makes me feel guilty’ Question: who is doing the feeling?

You are!

It is your reaction to what they have said or done or not done that you interpret guilt from.

Most people get it wrong about you or what you can achieve anyway. I’d like to cement this by pointing out: The Beatles were rejected. Michael Jordan didn’t make his school basketball team. Richard Branson has had more failed businesses than successful ones.

If they have worried about what others have thought you would never have heard of them.

Your feeling is created by yourself. Other people do not have the power to make you feel a certain way. You choose to feel that way! 

Using the emotional freedom technique will help you to overcome the fear of rejection.

Overcome your fear that they will think that your goals are too big and impossible for you to achieve them.

Overcome any emotional reaction to something in the past that they might have said or done.

Overcome your fear of putting yourself out there. And it will help you take the much-needed action in achieving your goals. From developing your own belief of self-worth and deserving.

With the emotional freedom technique it could be something as simple telling yourself;

Even though I’m afraid that others will think my goals are too big for me and I could never achieve them…

Even though I’m afraid of rejection’…
Even though he or she said x or did y and it made me feel…
Even though I’m not worthy of great success…

Even without being specific in detail, the emotional freedom technique will still work.

If you’re afraid about what you think others think about you doing Emotional Freedom Technique you can EFT that away too.

Another physical EFT is tapping, which like acupressure, tapping involves the body’s energy meridian points. Download my EFT tapping guide here

Immediate gratification

I know the process of exercise doesn’t feel good, in fact, it’s quite the opposite at the time. Being hot, sweaty, uncomfortable it’s quite an ordeal.

The same goes for food choices, it’s effort to cook a meal that will be better for you than a takeaway.

And getting to bed at a reasonable time rather than staying up for some more down time is tough.

Putting time aside to journal or meditate is also a challenge. Because at the back of your mind you know you’ve got a lot on your plate and you could be tackling some of that.

Doing these things gives us a short lived sense of achievement. From knowing that we’ve done something good for our health, but it’s negligible.

Everything else in our lives we get immediate gratification from. A take away meal or fast food gives us a big wave of dopamine. A cigarette gives us a nicotine hit, an alcoholic beverage gives us a buzz. Ordering something online arrives next day (sometimes the same day, thanks Mr Bezos)

It’s hard because we live in a world that caters for immediate gratification. Yet, these acute immediate gratifications are short lived. And some even come with remorse!

They’re very easy to fall into the habit of doing. When you’re busy with work and kids you might not be prepared to eat that well. Also, eating the stuff that’s not so great for you feels good when you’re stressed (thanks alot dopamine).

It’s easy not to go to the gym because ‘you haven’t got time’ or ‘you’re not feeling up for it’

It’s easy to watch another episode and stay up late because your day hasn’t included any time for you. It’s been all work, work, work.

With exercise, sleep, your diet, stress management there isn’t an clear or immediate feel-good association. Only the pat on the back you give yourself.

This immediate gratification is what you are fighting against in order to make a change.

Not giving into the things that feel good now but doing the things that will pay off later. Delayed gratification. The gratification that comes from achieving confidence from looking and feeling good. That feeling of being stronger, healthier, energised takes a bit of time.

But, imagine waking up every day feeling good, happy with what you see in the mirror. Thinking ‘you know what I’m going to change my social media profile pic to not just a headshot’.

‘I’m going to get those jeans from that store’.

This gratification will not be short lived! This will be with you for the foreseeable future, long-term happiness.

Baptism of fire

I remember when I first started in a Health Club many years ago and I had a consultation with a new client.


When I asked him about his goals I was a little taken back by what happened next.


He went to his bag and out from it he pulled a copy of Men’s Health magazine. He held the magazine and pointed to the bronzed Adonis on the front cover.


‘I want this guy’s body’ he said.


In my head I was thinking ‘this is something one would do in a barbers’.


This was one of my first consultations and turned out to be quite the baptism of fire. The rest of the consultation was spent managing expectations and understanding why he wanted this man’s body.


I mean the chap on the cover looked great and I could see the appeal. In my teens I would have had copies of these magazines and trying to emulate the model on the cover. Thinking this is what I need to look like.
Needless to say I never came close (partly because the info in the magazines was so confusing). Partly because of what I’m about to tell you next.
His goal, although endearing, didn’t make sense. He wanted to look like someone else!


I had to the explain to the portly, middle aged gentleman sitting in front of me. The professional model on the front cover had spent years training and nourishing himself to achieve that physique. It was his job to look like that.
Also the model would take extra steps in the months leading up to the shoot. Lighting, tanning, makeup and airbrushing would do the rest.


I told him that ‘the guy on the cover doesn’t even look like the guy on the cover!’


I explained to the gentleman that it would be prudent to focus on himself and getting his body to the best it can be. And we agreed on goals that were going to make him feel good about his body, improve his confidence and health.


This instance wasn’t a one off. I noticed more and more guys were proposing the same thing in consultations. And I know why. It’s because we are constantly subjected to these images of physical perfection. Magazines, advertisements, commercials etc. And we compare and contrast. We look at other people’s chapter twenty and compare it to our chapter one. This seldom feels good and it seems so far removed and unobtainable we become apathetic.


Now, if you didn’t already know; comparison is the thief of joy! So don’t do that! It’s not going to help. Yes you can appreciate the time and effort these people have devoted, but that is all.


When setting your goals concentrate on improving yourself. Becoming a better version of you, then put your energy into the small steps to achieve that. Things like:


*Eating better, without dieting or feeling deprived.

*Being active, no matter what shape you’re in now.

*Ditching the food rules, dropping the fad diets, and conflicting advice. *Building fitness into your life, without it taking over.

*Achieving and maintaining your goals, even when life gets busy.


Which will see you:


*Losing the weight/fat you haven’t been able to shed for years.

*Building physical strength and confidence in your body.

*Gaining mental confidence, no longer hiding your gifts and talents.

*Letting go of food confusion, learning what to do, how to do it.

*Getting off the diet roller coaster once and for all, and never looking back.


So, stop comparing yourself to others and start comparing yourself to your previous self.

Fear of failure

Have you ever avoided something because you are scared of failing?
Of course you have. This fear of failure is something we pick up in adolescence or adulthood. It protects our ego.


Think about it, what do we tell our kid’s when they come to us and tell us that something doesn’t work? We tell them to try again and when they come back and say it still doesn’t work. We say ‘try again’. Is that what we do as adults?? Nope! If we try again, we make sure nobody knows about it we don’t want anyone to know that we failed, right?


How long do you give your average baby to learn how to walk, before you shut them off and stop them from trying anymore? 🙂 They get up and keep failing until they walk! That is the magic formula. That is why you are able to walk. You persevered until! Thousands of attempts and thousands of ‘failures’ to see you walking. You tried until!


Unfortunately over time people are deterred from taking action and persevering because of fear. Fear of failure!

What I would suggest to you is that you change your perception around failure. To discipline your thinking in a new way, new thought process. What I mean is I want you to think that;


‘there are no failures, there are only results/outcomes!


Ask yourself do I always get my goal? But do you always get an outcome? Maybe not the one you intended, but it is a result. So the truth is you never fail you always succeed in producing a result, now it may not be the one you intended but that’s ok.You can make a subtle change and produce a new result.


People that succeed are the ones that do not believe in failure. There is no failure only outcomes/results. This guides them to continually take the action that eventually produces the kind of results that most people only hope to produce.


The thing is you probably don’t feel good about failing, but you feel good about learning. So the way you are going to succeed from this moment forward is you are going to realise that there are no failures. Because you learn from every experience. You succeed by learning from every human experience.


You will learn far more from these failures than you do successes. And as long as you learn from the experience then you can change your approach to produce the result that you want!


Now what I’m going to put to you is, how about you remove all the time spent trying and failing? How about you expedite the result with a proven method that will see you transform your body and mind. Improving your energy and productivity. A method that will see you looking good and feeling great!


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Small commitments, big results

When addressing health and fitness the common misconception is that it you have to make some dramatic overhaul to your life.


That countless hours will have to spent at the gym on exercises you detest.


Your diet will have to be drastically adjusted and a large chunk of time will be spent with meal prepping.


Sleep, stress and recovery plans will impact your week placing even more time constraints on you.


When the reality is you only need to adjust what you are already doing. No more time required just optmising what you are already doing.


The time you spend exercising will not change only the exercises and how you organise that training. To ensure that you are building muscle and boosting testosterone levels.


The time you assign to your diet will not change only the choices you make with your meal selections. To ensure that you are energised and managing your weight.


Sleep and recovery can be improved so that your performance is better. Because improving your performance is not about how hard you can go at it. It’s about how well you can recover.


Knowing this is important because time is precious and what with juggling other demands. Working long hours. Caring for family. Trying to manage a business. And so on. The last thing you want to feel like is that you have to give more time to something.


With The Limitless Lifestyle Blueprint you have a Health Professional take care of everything for you. All the heavy lifting is done. No more guess work. No more time wasted doing redundant diets. Irrelevant exercise routines, or erroneous sleep and stress regimes. You have a plan to follow and support and accountability along the way.


The only extra time you need to set aside are for our weekly check ins. Where we go over what progress you’ve been making with performance and what, needs adjusting as your body changes and if your lifestyle changes.


Not more time, time better spent.

The pigeon hole trap

Have you ever heard about having the right diet and exercise for your body type?

This ‘body type’ premise has gained a lot of traction. The idea that people fit into 1 of 3 body types and they should exercise in accordance with the exercises suited to that body type.

Unfortunately a lot of people are buying into this. I say unfortunately because the body type principle is erroneous. The body types or Somatotypes; Ectomorph, Endomorph and Mesomorph are actually psychological profiles. Developed in the 1940s by American psychologist William Sheldon. Based on the theory that the size and shape of a person’s body indicated intelligence, moral worth and future achievement.

For example, an Ectomorph, characterized as skinny, weak, and usually tall with low testosterone levels. Their psychological traits would described them as intelligent, gentle and calm, but self-conscious, introverted and anxious.

But why let the facts get in the way of a good pyramid scheme? People and companies have gone on to make a lot of money selling weight loss and muscle building products based on this antiquated psychological method of generalisation.

What about the right diet for you blood type? Yep that is also a thing. It is the diet equivalent to choosing the fuel for your car based on its colour.

These ruthless and unsavoury characters are inferring that the reason you are struggling with weight loss or attaining a good physique is because you are not eating the right diet for your body type or your DNA.

They know the real reason that you are not losing weight is that you are not achieving a calorie deficit! But if you knew that then they wouldn’t purchase their snake oil.

Once you know the cause of weight loss and weight gain plus understand calories, macronutrients and food choices you then have the power to manage your weight. As a by-product you will look and feel great plus you will have done wonders for your health.

Save your money on expensive products and fads that mask a calorie deficit. Instead set up your own and get results that will be manageable for the rest of your life. For more help with this download your FREE copy of The Fitness Gentleman’s Vitality Handbook

A drop in the ocean

If you are looking to make a change it’s not an hour of exercise per week you need help with.

It’s the support outside of that gym session. Sure a trainer beasting you in the gym is fun and exercise is great and you’ll feel good it. But to make changes you need to go beyond that. You need to look past someone counting how many burpees you’ve done. To someone who can give you support outside of that gym session.

I’ve seen people that have had trainers for years and made zero change. That’s because one hour of the week that you exercise is futile when it comes to improving your health. It’s a drop in the ocean. 

As I said it will make you feel good for having done it but if you don’t have your nutrition on point it doesn’t matter. if you don’t have your sleep and stress managed then you aren’t getting to the crux of it.

It’s like putting a plaster on a broken arm

Lifestyle choices, the things that you’ve engrained over the years. Are the things that have got you into this situation. One hour of beasting a week isn’t going to help.

And what happens outside of that gym session with a trainer? You’ll have a vague idea of what to do from the sessions you’ve had but as soon as you walk out of the gym. You are on your own. This is tragic because that one hour in the gym accounts for only 4% of your day.

The other 96% is going to be a guessing game, the foods you eat your sleep cycle, how you manage stress, your activity. Plus all the other things that encompass your quality of life.

Without knowing what to do for the rest of the week you are stuck. Unaware of what you need to do to change your body nor do you have the mindset to facilitate change.

That one hour with a trainer does nothing to help you understand your metabolic rate. To determine the calories you need for fat loss and improving your energy. What needs to be a part of your diet to optimize testosterone levels and ensure you are helping keep lean mass. What exercise frequency and type you need to build muscle. Mitigate stress and elevate testosterone levels. What your sleep cycle looks like to ensure that you are energized. So you have focus and improved executive function.

Don’t get me wrong it’s admirable taking action to make a change but when you are not changing. It’s a poor investment. And it’s not the trainer’s fault, I’m sure they’re doing the best. But unfortunately, the entry standard into the fitness industry is low.

Gym staff will be able to guide you with exercise techniques. But someone with a Degree in sports science will have advanced knowledge of physiology. To program your sessions and recommend what exercise is relevant to your goal.

A Nutritionist will be able to plan out your diet to ensure that you achieve your goal of getting leaner. Whilst ensuring that you adjust your diet to optimise your energy and productivity. Increasing your testosterone levels.

An NLP Practitioner will help you manage stress. And ensure that cortisol doesn’t diminish your vitality and energy.

This is why it would be prudent to have a health coach in your corner. Someone qualified in all those areas. Who can program your lifestyle to improve your health. 

Ask yourself ‘what is the cost of not doing so?’ To continue on spending thousands on trainers whilst making no change. Wasting time getting nowhere with the newest fad diet that claims to be better than the last fad diet. To carry on feeling tired, exhausted, and stressed.

That is going to be very costly in terms of time and money. Not to mention the toll on your health.

The Limitless Lifestyle Blueprint covers every area of your lifestyle. To ensure that you are in the best possible health to live the quality of life that you want. To look good, feel good, and have that abundance of energy that helps you perform at your best.

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Progress not perfection

Good moaning Friend,

I hope you know that it’s common for willpower to fail at times. You may suddenly give into junk food and overindulge because of hunger or temptation. 

Or you may skip a workout because you had a shit day at work or an argument with your spouse and you are not in the mood. Or maybe you binge-watched a Netflix show and didn’t go? 

These things happen. You must forgive yourself and get back to it. So many people make the cardinal error of aiming for perfection and when they slip up, they feel like they’ve failed, and the entire goal has gone to waste. 

They then decide to just let themselves go, carry on with the bad habits, and give up on their goal. It is the equivalent of getting a flat tyre then slashing the other 3! All because they slipped up once and think it’s ‘game over’. It’s not! 

Acknowledge your mistake and analyze why you slipped up. Maybe you need to remove all fun foods from your kitchen, so you don’t binge. Or maybe you should work out first thing in the morning, so you don’t skip your training sessions. 

Once you figure out a way to rectify future mistakes, you’ll increase your compliance and prevent future slip-ups. It is easier when conditions are right.   

Aim for over 85% compliance with your routine and habits. 

No matter how disciplined you are, you will make a mistake and give in to temptation here and there. If your compliance is 85% and above, you’ll definitely be on track to achieving your goals. Perfection is unattainable. Progression is what you are focusing on!

If you’ve lost 0.5 kg this week that’s progress! If you’ve done more exercise or you’re stronger than last week, that’s progress! If you’ve got more sleep or controlled your temper in a situation that would typically see you erupt. That’s progress! And that my friend is all you need to concern yourself with.

If you want to make progress with your health and fitness. To look better, feel better, have more energy, and increase your productivity. Then the Limitless Lifestyle Blueprint is for you.

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Measure your progress

Often when we hear words like tracking or recording we fret and become anxious. We avoid compiling data about ourselves because we are fearful of what the numbers might tell us.

I wanted to tell you that this data/feedback is where you are, not who you are! These numbers should not define you, only bring to your attention that there is still work to be done.

I advocate you measure your progress as the data you gain tells you that you are:

1. actually taking action, not thinking that you are taking action.

2. on the right trajectory towards your goal because you can see a trend.

This in itself is motivating and will aid momentum. Because you can see that what you are doing is working! And that’s the most reassuring and satisfying feeling; knowing that what you are doing is working!

You move out of that limbo. That frustrating zone where you are taking action but you aren’t sure if it’s working or not. It’s a soul-destroying place to be when you are trying your hardest but you don’t see progress. Because you are unsure if your actions are worthwhile.

‘Am I wasting my time? Am I ever going to see results?’

Which is I offer a money-back guarantee on The Limitless Lifestyle Blueprint.

I know that when you follow the steps I’ve outlined you will achieve results, that will have you looking and feeling great. Giving you more energy, productivity, and confidence. Not only from being in great shape but from not wasting mental energy on your health concerns.

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Regret

My palms get sweaty on hearing that word. It makes me think if I’m making an impact and if I’ll be where I want to be 10 years from now.


Regret is a scary word. But it’s also a motivating word. Because regret DRIVES me to take action because I never want to feel it.


I’m DRIVEN to do everything in my power to succeed… So I don’t feel regret later.


Whether it’s tomorrow, next month, next year, or next decade. I’m always doing my best to move forward. Even if I don’t succeed every time – I’m always trying. As long as I’m enjoying the journey, I’m happy.


Because you never know when the journey will end. So that’s why I make the MOST out of every single moment. Because I never want to feel like I didn’t give it my all.
I know this is a deep message, but it’s one you need to hear.


No matter what you’re going through right now… Don’t give up!


Because the relief & success you’ll feel after you make it out of a bad situation feels SO much better than regret. Remember that!


So if you are trying to lose those 30 pounds you’ve been trying to lose for the past 10 years. 


Lower your risk of health concerns.  


Avoid a divorce that would cost you half your wealth.  ⠀


Achieve that promotion which adds extra £££ to your take-home. From focus and productivity at work.

These are all doable. The beautiful thing is The Limitless Lifestyle Blueprint covers most of the above.

A system that is more efficient, faster, and customized to your specific lifestyle. 


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